This is an extremely personal blog- one which I had hoped not to be forced to write, but feel I now need to. I want to put an end to the abuse I receive from ignorant people who simply judge me for my name and set the record straight.
My name is Melody Hossaini, I was born in Iran, grew up in Sweden with my family and have lived in the UK for the past 17 years. Over the past 3 years, I have been receiving a lot of extremely ignorant comments on my online social platforms from Muslims who judge me against my surname and automatically believe I am Muslim.
Comments such as ‘Melody is a bit*h for eating haram food’, or ‘You don’t deserve your surname’ and other comments which are too rude to repeat.
Firstly, your spiritual choices and your relationship with your God is a private one. One which you should not be forced to explain nor be judged against, which is why I have consistently ignored comments, deleted them and simply challenged the abuse by encouraging an open mind, and reminded them that it’s wrong to judge someone against your own personal beliefs.
Although I felt I should never have to explain myself, I want to. I am Persian, of Persian background and prior to Iran becoming a Muslim country, it was in fact Zoroastrian. Zoroastrianism is one of the oldest religions of time. It is in fact, what Christianity and Islam even stemmed from and dates back to the beginning of time. The symbol is at the top of this post. Zoroastrians believe in the 3 elements of:
- Think Good Thoughts
- Say Good Words
- Do Good Deeds
Zoroastrians believe that free choice is a gift from God and that you should exercise it (which is why Zoroastrianism is often not even thought of as a religion and more of a school of thought- it isn’t prescriptive). The notion of giving, environment and charity are also strong pillars of the ethos. As well as this, the 4 elements of earth, fire, wind and air first formed out of Zoroastrianism.
My surname may be ‘Hossaini’ (which wasn’t my grandparents real name even, it was a name they changed to in order to fit into an Islamic country of Iran) but that doesn’t determine my belief. I am Zoroastrian and am led by a belief of giving, of helping and a strong moral compass (like any other faith).
The main reason for writing this is to expand people’s thinking. You can believe in something, but you can not put that belief on others. I do not take kindly to people using abuse and disgusting behaviour to force their way of life onto me (regardless of my beliefs). Expand your thinking, judge people less and worry about your own life. To all those who say I have forgotten my roots- it’s the opposite.
The main aspects that we are judged against (I’m talking bottom line) is if we give to people, if we’re kind, if we live well and show gratitude- and this hasn’t anything to do with religion, this is pure humanity. You are not defending the honour of anything by being abusive. Think.
With Love and Peace,